Thursday, February 22, 2007

My cool cousin

When I was a kid, my family would drive out to my aunt and uncle's house about once a month for dinner. Their children we a few years old than my brothers and sisters, but we got along so well. They had a pool and we would spend hours and hours swimming. The boys in that family were all teenagers and I thought they were so cool. They surfed, listened to The Doors, Simon and Garfunkel, etc. I really loved those cousins. We had such great times together.

Yesterday one of these cousins, now 56, passed away after a lengthy battle with cancer. He lives in the same city I do. During his chemotherapy I would help him and his wife. We became close once again...after all these years. He was still so cool.

Monday I was shopping at the fabric store and was thinking about my cousin. I was buying fabric to make him a quilt. When I got home, there was a message on my machine from my cousin's sister. They had taken him to the ER. He had had a massive heart attack. There, he lingered for a couple of days in the ICU, until the family could all gather. His mother was there. His sister and all the brothers. There were all these cousins I had known so long ago. We were able to share memories of the days our families would get together.

My cousin passed away peacefully with his mother, wife and family around him. I was also there. It is such a sad thing watching someone die, but also a relief...I think. His body was so sick. He was a good man and I will miss him so much.

Today I am exhausted. I'm trying to piece a little, but I'm moving so slowly. Perhaps I'll have more energy tomorrow.


Debra Spincic said...

My sincere condolence to you and your family. Making a quilt will be good therapy for you.

anabindu said...

Lo siento mucho. Un abrazo muy fuerte

Granny Fran said...

What a sad time for you; my heart goes out to you. I'm glad you were able to be close to him again.

Samantha said...

So sorry to hear of your loss, but glad your cousin was able to pass with so much family support!